Hi
I'm new to this forum and whilst I am not a carer of someone with dementia I am the daughter of someone with dementia and this is my first experience of the condition.
My Dad was recently diagnosed with dementia and has started a care plan and medication. However, he won't discuss it and yet is paranoid that we (his wife and children) are having conversations about it without his knowledge.
He's easily confused and gets anxious if anyone in the family tries to raise with him about putting in place things to help him longer term. A specific example right now is that myself and my brother would like to get an LPOA in place for helping with longer term needs, but it is very difficult to raise this with him and then, when we do, he gets confused or says he doesn't remember the conversation when it is next raised.
My Mum, his main carer, doesn't help because she doesn't like us to bring up any subject which makes him confused or anxious because he has a tendency to become aggressive when upset.
I am particularly concerned about the impact of him not agreeing to an LPOA, but how can I raise it in a way that doesn't upset him and yet moves the conversation on so we can get this in place? I would love to get them independent advice, but they don't have any friends who they have told about Dad's condition and are being reluctant to accept any support group or external help.
I'd be really grateful to know if anyone has any experience of this and how they addressed it? Also, if I am being overly concerned about the LPOA and in reality we don't need it, so I shouldn't be making him anxious about it and should just drop the conversation.
Thank you
I'm new to this forum and whilst I am not a carer of someone with dementia I am the daughter of someone with dementia and this is my first experience of the condition.
My Dad was recently diagnosed with dementia and has started a care plan and medication. However, he won't discuss it and yet is paranoid that we (his wife and children) are having conversations about it without his knowledge.
He's easily confused and gets anxious if anyone in the family tries to raise with him about putting in place things to help him longer term. A specific example right now is that myself and my brother would like to get an LPOA in place for helping with longer term needs, but it is very difficult to raise this with him and then, when we do, he gets confused or says he doesn't remember the conversation when it is next raised.
My Mum, his main carer, doesn't help because she doesn't like us to bring up any subject which makes him confused or anxious because he has a tendency to become aggressive when upset.
I am particularly concerned about the impact of him not agreeing to an LPOA, but how can I raise it in a way that doesn't upset him and yet moves the conversation on so we can get this in place? I would love to get them independent advice, but they don't have any friends who they have told about Dad's condition and are being reluctant to accept any support group or external help.
I'd be really grateful to know if anyone has any experience of this and how they addressed it? Also, if I am being overly concerned about the LPOA and in reality we don't need it, so I shouldn't be making him anxious about it and should just drop the conversation.
Thank you