My dads memory assessment service at mom and dads house has been cancelled by dad. They rang to confirm next weeks visit unbeknown to me and he said there was nothing wrong with his memory. My hard of hearing mom heard him using a raised voice. She told me this. I said I was going to phone the clinic and she asked me not to. I have phoned the clinic and the appointment is back at clinic at the end of the month, if I can get him there. I can only try and reason but he forgets fifteen minutes later anything you say. He gets nasty with mom. This is my concern. He tells her he hates her. He wishes that he had never married her, he married beneath himself and should have listened to his family. I walked in from the kitchen last week and he was shouting at her accusing her of having an affair with a member of a group they used to go out with. I challenged him and he said it was nothing. I said it wasn't nothing because he was shouting at mom, I'd heard everything and he went on to justify his accusation. I reassured him calmly that there was no way mom would have had the chance, aside from anything else she was never keen on this person. He went on to say one of the other members had phoned him warning him to watch her with this person. I said he should ignore tittle tattle. His personality is not the same. He would never have been like this with mom. He gets a bit nasty with me sometimes. He shouted at me during an appointment with a consultant. She was concerned, asked me and mom some questions, she sent dad and mom out of the room to make an appointment , keeping me back allegedly waiting for his blood form. She asked me more questions and I was honest. I asked her to keep my name out of anything because of repercussions for mom. She wrote to his GP giving him the results of this consultation, also suggesting he checked dad for dementia, after concerns from family members! Of course he read the letter and went mad. He did go and see the GP. He admitted his memory wasn't great and the GP did a mini test on Him. I was shocked to the core that he didn't know what day, month or year it was. Followed by he didn't need to know those things anyway! The doctor talked to dad and dad agreed to go for memory assessment. He had a letter and he said he'd cancel it. I phoned the GP and he managed to get one for at home and this is what he cancelled. My mom has Atrial Fibrillation, three leaking valves, low grade myeloma (blood cancer) and fragile osteoporosis. He wakes her up in the early hours of the morning by shining a torch in her face and insisting she gets up to look for things, which most times they don't have any more. He's even asked her where her certain clothing is from 50+ years ago He's also feeding stray cats at a cost of more than £200 a month. He's refused to claim attendance allowance. I've recently been to age uk with mom to get the form done for her. He won't hear of it for him. He tried to stop her claiming but I said she was entitled to try. I said it would help pay for a gardener as their garden is huge. He said no that he can do it. He's 85 and we are talking borders that need digging. He has dropped neck syndrome as well I know this is a long post but I needed to put it down to give an overview but it's more like an essay! Apologies!