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my Dad, broken hip, fixed and pneumonia.....

Discussion in 'End of life care' started by wobbly, Dec 20, 2015.

  1. wobbly

    wobbly Registered User

    Feb 14, 2012
    313
    Mid Wales
    #1 wobbly, Dec 20, 2015
    Last edited: Dec 20, 2015
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  2. wobbly

    wobbly Registered User

    Feb 14, 2012
    313
    Mid Wales
    we lost my Dad on tues 22nd, even though we were expecting it it was still so hard. So many mixed emotions.....relief that he isn't suffering any more, he had broken his hip and had pneumonia, and awful sadness that he was gone :( The care home staff were as we knew they would be, absolutely brilliant, so caring, nothing too much trouble and they were genuinely sad, he was a real character bless him. I know now I did the right thing fighting to bring him back to his "home", the look of relief and contentment when the ambulance staff put him into his bed was so worth it. He came home to the home on tuesday and on the friday the GP decided it was end of life care from now on, which I was relieved about but also felt guilty about, it was very hard for us too but we only ever wanted the best for him. We stayed with him day and night and he passed peacefully away on the tuesday morning. For that I'm glad, he is free now.....
     
  3. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,217
    Merseyside
    Oh wobbly I am so sorry.
     
  4. DMac

    DMac Registered User

    Jul 18, 2015
    537
    Female
    Surrey, UK
    Sweet dreams for your poor dad, he is at peace now. A rest and relief for you. Take care. xxx
     
  5. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    2,739
    So sorry xxx you are right, he is at peace now and I hope that you have some peaceful days. Take care x
     
  6. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,973
    Suffolk
    Condolences, wobbly.
     
  7. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,520
    Ireland
    Sorry for your loss Wobbly
    xx
     
  8. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
    3,232
    Female
    The Sweet North
    So glad you were able to get your dad back to the home, where the staff knew him. You certainly have done your very best for him, and this will no doubt be of some comfort to you as you grieve.
    I am sorry for your loss, and understand your relief that he is now free of illness and pain.
     
  9. Shazedge

    Shazedge Registered User

    Nov 11, 2015
    27
    I am so sorry for your loss but glad you were able to get him back home. We lost dad on Sunday and in very similar circumstances. Same as you have dreadful feeling so guilt, relief but most of all the overwhelming feeling of loss and emptiness. We are all so heartbroken I wonder if we will ever be the same again.
    Don't be too hard on yourself it's sounds, like us, all you wanted was the best for your dad and sadly, like us, there was never to be a happy ending x x x x
     
  10. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Sorry for your loss xx
     
  11. wobbly

    wobbly Registered User

    Feb 14, 2012
    313
    Mid Wales
    thankyou all so much, and yes Shazedge, you are so right.....
     
  12. overwhelmed1

    overwhelmed1 Registered User

    Dec 7, 2013
    74
    Chester
    I have also lost my father (alzheimers had pneumonia) Christmas Eve. So I understand how there is no happy ending and you are left with memories of his suffering.

    I guess at least we know we are not alone in this. You did so well bringing him home xxx
     
  13. wobbly

    wobbly Registered User

    Feb 14, 2012
    313
    Mid Wales
    aww thanks overwhelmed, I had noticed your posts and did mean to post a message to you, I hope you are doing ok......
     
  14. Witzend

    Witzend Registered User

    Aug 29, 2007
    4,296
    SW London
    So glad you were able to bring him 'home', and that the end was peaceful. x
     

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