Hi everyone, to keep this thread running, will post on this one, so that others can learn from this.
First and foremost I want to thank everyone of you that gave me advise and support on my other post, it helped me a lot and I went into the hosp today guns a blazing!!!
thanks you all of you that posted it gave me the knowledge and courage to let rip!
This is how it went.........
Got to hospital, seen dad, the had to leave as they gave him a wash, change etc. I stood by the cubicle and did not move. My god he was telling them to F**k off, Bast**ds, you name it, he came out with it. It was very distressing to hear this.
After he was cleaned up, I asked them why he was crying out so much? they said he does not like being moved or touched (really!! he is dying here) they were as good as gold with him, but he was not a happy camper.
Doctors turned up, then I let rip about the complete mess yesterday etc and they both apologised etc, they said there was mistakes and it was their fault.
Next CHC funding, doctor tells me CHC will fully fund a nursing home, but would only part fund extra care at his current home. I went mental about this.......
Next they send me another nurse who is more clued up.....she tells me he should be fast track and the application will take a couple of days....... I said the application was sent in on Tuesday, so now your saying its not? she said oh I did not know etc etc, at this point was losing the will to live.
I said the whole point of fast track CHC funding it that it is FAST!! I said its disgusting!! why is it not sorted!! anyway in the end I rang CHC myself, they said yes the application is done, and nursing home will be fully funded, but his current care home it would not, but would fund for extra carers for dad. CHC even advised me to ask the hospital if he can be moved to a palliative care hosp local to me.
I ring his current home and chat with the Manager, and she said I cannot get extra carers in, even agency ones (so gutted, this Manager and this home is so good)
At this point I said right thats it no more!!! confirmed that he will not return as he can't, and that I will clear his room tomorrow.
Next went back to the doctors on the ward and said that's it, I am getting off this round about, and I am doing no more, he either goes to nursing home or local hospital.....I said I give up, I have tried so hard to sort this out, and should not be doing this at this stage.
She agreed and she is going to speak to the hospital social worker to see if she can step in and help find a nursing home willing to take him near me.
The care home Manager told me that they have taken dad off all the alzheimers medication and this is why he is so aggressive!! so I ripped into the doctors about that too!!
So its been a horrid day again and I have just stopped now, over to them.......
My dad would not eat or drink, I managed by 13.15 to get him to eat a little icecream, it was about 4 tiny teaspoons, and one sip of drink. He just wont eat or drink, he is so so thin now..........
I said to him you have had enough? he nodded yes.
The nurses said he is one stubborn fellow
oh yes that's my dad!!
He is a proud man and he is going through hell, he hates hospitals and anyone going near him, and his dignity gone, so so sad.
Again thank you all so so much for my cry for help yesterday, it was truly appreciated.