My mother is in the early stages of dementia after a stroke. The biggest symptom is memory loss but I understand other symptoms will follow. She lives with my brother in the family home and I live more than 200 miles away. I think he should have more freedom (he's in his 30s) and her memory loss does mean she asks the same questions over and over which is annoying even for a few hours. How far should I intervene and make suggestions? She hasn't been assessed formally. On visits to GPs for other medication, she says little and appears fine. We are reluctant to have her diagnosed with Alzheimers as it will scare her but is that the only way to get extra help? Sorry to ask so many questions, but it's a lot to take in.