Are truly my Dad and my brother!
My Dad has cognitive impairment ( but supposedly doesn't have dementia) His memory is reasonably good.
Everything I suggest, do or say , Dad does the opposite, or resists any changes to make things easier for Mum.
This is a constant battle between deciding is it his cognitive impairment or is he just being bloody minded.
Example. It is our summer here, and Mum cannot cope with the heat. I bought them a new fan, which is better and quieter than their old one. i come home from work to find Mum on the point of exhaustion ( who knows if she has had enough to drink). Curtains closed, doors closed and no fan on. She tells me Dad turned it off.
Dad says it will use up all the electricity.
" What would you do Dad if Mum collapsed with this heat" ....No answer! Shrugs his shoulders.
They have a St John alarm system. Dad tells me he didn't think it worked anymore because Mum won't wear her pendant alarm. They have a main alarm unit also right by their TV with a big red emergency button!!
My brother who is having relationship problems and is temporarily staying at Mum & Dads and who admits that in over 2 years he has not looked up any info about Alzheimers let alone ring the Alz Society is literally doing my head in.
Out of 3 bedrooms, he has taken possession of two of them, with all his clutter and mess. Of course you cannot tell Mum not to go in either room... She just will.
One day, she will go in and trip over and fall badly. He says well, she will just have to stay out!
I have told him to clean them up, and he has until this weekend.
He leaves his laptop, keys, and wallet on the dining table. I have told him before to remove them, in case Mum tidies them away.
One day when he was out, Mum was at the dining table eating, and knocked a glass of water over. Inches within his laptop.
Any you know what I am done telling him! He is 42! I have gone from being his sister to his mother and I already have two children of my own.
Sounds so awful, but sometimes I wish it was just Mum & me, and I didn't have to work.
I guarantee Mums quality of life would be so much better.
My Dad has cognitive impairment ( but supposedly doesn't have dementia) His memory is reasonably good.
Everything I suggest, do or say , Dad does the opposite, or resists any changes to make things easier for Mum.
This is a constant battle between deciding is it his cognitive impairment or is he just being bloody minded.
Example. It is our summer here, and Mum cannot cope with the heat. I bought them a new fan, which is better and quieter than their old one. i come home from work to find Mum on the point of exhaustion ( who knows if she has had enough to drink). Curtains closed, doors closed and no fan on. She tells me Dad turned it off.
Dad says it will use up all the electricity.
" What would you do Dad if Mum collapsed with this heat" ....No answer! Shrugs his shoulders.
They have a St John alarm system. Dad tells me he didn't think it worked anymore because Mum won't wear her pendant alarm. They have a main alarm unit also right by their TV with a big red emergency button!!
My brother who is having relationship problems and is temporarily staying at Mum & Dads and who admits that in over 2 years he has not looked up any info about Alzheimers let alone ring the Alz Society is literally doing my head in.
Out of 3 bedrooms, he has taken possession of two of them, with all his clutter and mess. Of course you cannot tell Mum not to go in either room... She just will.
One day, she will go in and trip over and fall badly. He says well, she will just have to stay out!
I have told him to clean them up, and he has until this weekend.
He leaves his laptop, keys, and wallet on the dining table. I have told him before to remove them, in case Mum tidies them away.
One day when he was out, Mum was at the dining table eating, and knocked a glass of water over. Inches within his laptop.
Any you know what I am done telling him! He is 42! I have gone from being his sister to his mother and I already have two children of my own.
Sounds so awful, but sometimes I wish it was just Mum & me, and I didn't have to work.
I guarantee Mums quality of life would be so much better.
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