Just when you think you have let the home know about mums needs and believe they have understood it all goes up in the sky. Yesterday mum had a very lucid day, knew she was in a CH, was adamant she wasn't staying there was shouting and swearing to leave, even pulled up her skirt saying she would wet herself there and then if my sister in law didn't take her home. Trying to mapp what could have triggered the outburst, it would seem when my sister in law arrived mum was in the kitchenette with the carer washing up, she was talking away and all good, it was when the carer left the room that mum started, saying she wanted out, to fetch her coat, she has to get home before she goes as mad as this lot, there are a few she really hasn't taken to, one being the man who walk in her bedroom on her second night and scared her. My sister in law did her best to distract her by waking round the home but mum was having none of it, at this time there was no one to ask for help as all the carers were at a meeting watching a training film, by then mum was really verbally protesting. The day before she was fine as she was occupied in the daycare side, when I went in the afternoon I chose to stay my distance and let her have her lunch etc. Then joined everyone in the daycare, whilst in there the residents were left to themselves while staff were having a break at the tables. I managed to keep mum engaged until one of the staff said the were going home and mum asked to go with and she said no where mum said okay she will go and jump of the bridge into the Avon. She has said this several times now in the last week, to me when she says this, it is an indicator to another uti infection or actual distress signal which the home have been told about. Last night it was another fretful sleep, are we doing the right thing for mum, is this care home the right one, what's to say the next one any better, there is a realutive meeting tonight what do we say if anything. There are some aspects of complacency emerging but don't want to rock the boat making things bad for mum, yet the staff are very nice to her.
So confused and saddened by the whole experience.
H
So confused and saddened by the whole experience.
H