Hi, I am new here, driven to seek advice by despair at mum's situation. Mum has vascular dementia. I started caring for her at the start of the first lockdown when my dad died. She fell and broke her hip before Christmas- they operated and pinned it, and sent her home on Christmas Eve. She came home with a persistent UTI as a result of the catheter she had in hospital and tests show it is highly antibiotic resistant. She is, I believe on her 4 th antibiotic- some of them have worked briefly but then dropped off. The only thing that had a longer effect was D-Mannose, worth reading up on if you want a non antibiotic option, but even that hasn't stopped the UTI coming back. Before she broke her hip, she was largely continent. Now she is definitely urine incontinent and I am having a steep learning curve in dealing with it. Every time the infection comes back, her mobility falls away along with her mental ability, and everything becomes 50 times harder. When the UTI is there with a vengeance, I have to move her on a Sarah Steady (a wheelable frame used for hip patients). When she is better, she walks with a Zimmer frame, though before the fall she walked without. She becomes very uncooperative, and sleepy, and it is very hard to get her to do anything. I'm not even sure what advice I'm asking for, just whether anyone out there has had a similar experience. I m near the end of my tether.