Mum has had dementia for about 9 years (officially diagnosed for 6 years) and has lived at home with increasing support and carers. Twice this year she has been hospitalised with two different fractures in her vertebra. After the first stay I got her into respite care as the hospital wanted to discharge her as they could do no more. She stayed for about 3 weeks but got very depressed at not being at home. I was hoping she'd love it there as its a fantastic care home. Anyway, home she went in April with extra care going in. Some care was accepted but some wasn't working. She can't remember that she has a bad back until she tries to move, can't remember the earlier hospital stay or why she's where she is. After the recent hospital stay, a room became available in the same care home. Mum is so confused and the nursing staff shared our concerns about her returning home. A social worker saw her and assessed her as having capacity to choose where she was discharged to. I sent an urgent email outlining our concerns and the next day she was assessed as not having capacity so was discharged to the care home. My daughter and I have put personal possessions in her room, labelled her clothes and signed the contract with the home. She likes it there but wants to be in the house she has lived in since the mid 50's. She really isn't safe at home and although there is a team of family, friend and carers going in, we worry she will end up on the floor and won't press her alarm again. She doesn't remember if she's eaten, is incontinent, and forgets how to use things in the house. The manager of the home is going for Deprivation of Liberty but worries that they will catch her on a good day (she comes across as an intelligent woman that does everything for herself)! If that is the case what can I do? She really is in the best place and won't cope back at home. She has her own home and a lifetime of savings so she is fully funded - money isn't an issue as although my brother thinks of it as his inheritance, Dad died leaving her well provided for. It's her money! Sorry went a bit off track there ........... anyway, what can I do if they don't approve the DOL?