Mum's funeral yesterday

[Tarika]

We had mum's funeral yesterday. It was lovely and she would have approved!

The hearse and limousine arrived at her flat. It was really poignant as mum had never returned to her home after she had her first stroke in June 2008. But she came home and neighbours came out to say goodbye.

The flowers were beautiful and the maitre d' (???) walked the hearse to the main road very dignified and respectfully. There were 6 of us- me, my partner, her partner, her previous partner's brother and two neighbours who were her close friends.

We went to Mortlake Crematorium. I'd spoken to the vicar in the week to arrange the service. I chose 'Hallelujah' by Robert Gass (an arrangement of Pachelbel's Canon) as the music to enter and depart. We sang 'Lord of all Hopefulness'- the vicar read a piece I had written about mum and my partner read a John Masefield poem 'I must go down to the sea again' (mum was from Cornwall and loved the sea).

We went back to her favourite pub in Hammersmith for drinks and a meal and it was lovely- sharing memories and just chatting.

I used a well known chain of funeral directors and they were excellent. They did everything.

I still can't believe she's gone but I am so pleased with yesterday. My partner took lots of photos as a memory for us.

Rest in peaace my darling mum.

Love Tarika

 

[Canadian Joanne]

Tarika,
It sounds like it was a beautiful service and very appropriate.

 

[lotus]

rip

she will and is. you did her grand. well done.

i experienced a loss of purpose in following days - its bound to happen.

holding your hand in peace and hope our moms are having a lovely tea together .xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Vonny]

Dear Tarika, thanks for letting us know how it went. Your mum would be proud of the care you'd put into the service and I'm so glad it went well xx

 

[larivy]

so pleased it went well and you will have lots of good memories your mum would have been so proud love larivy

 

[turbo]

Hello Tarika, I'm pleased the funeral went well. It sounds as if it was a lovely goodbye to your mum.

turbo

 

[BeckyJan]

I think you gave your Mum a wonderful send off - well done, she would be proud of you all.

 

[Izzy]

I'm glad it went well. It sounded really dignified. I love both pieces of music and the poem. Take care of yourself. Izzy x

 

[Sam Iam]

Tarika, your mum's funeral sounded lovely and means you will have peace of mind.




"Those who live in our hearts never truly die"xxxx

 

[Carolyn1]

sympathies

My thoughts go with you at this sad time. Im glad the day went well, it sound like you did your mum proud. Im sure it was very difficult for you all. Hang in there xxxxxx

 

[Grannie G]

Dear Tarika

It sounds as if you are really satisfied with the arrangements you made for your mum and the way her funeral was conducted. Well done. You have done the very best you could for her.

 

[sleepless]

Hello, Tarika,

I am so pleased your mother's funeral went so well.
It is important to those left behind to feel they did their best for their loved one, a final gift at parting.
Take care of yourself now, and best wishes,
sleepless.

 

[florence43]

Dear Tarika,

It sounds perfect. I know that feeling of getting it just right! I think she would have been very proud.

If you feel like the days are very long and you're at a loose end, we're all still here for you just to gee you along in the quietr times to come.

Lots of love,

 

[Nanak]

I can only echo all these sentiments on here.
Look after yourself xx
Nanak
missing what has gone and scared of what is to come

 

[lin1]

A beautiful send off for your mum

 

[Helen33]

Dear Tarika,

Your post have moved me to tears. I am so pleased that it all went so well and it sounded like you were surrounded by love during the day.

Love

 

[AMS]

I'm so pleased that you were able to feel so positively about your mother's funeral, Tarika - it sounded like a wonderful day.

My mam died last week and I'm not looking forward to the funeral one little bit as I'm terrified I'm going to be some sobbing wreck that they're going to have to pick off the floor.

I'm praying that I can find the positives of the day (ie that it's a celebration of her life, she wouldn't want us to be unhappy, that she was loved by so many people etc) and not just be entirely engulfed with grief.

Anne-Marie

 

[sad nell]

The funeral was a lovely celebration of your mother life, hope you have stored many happy memories; take care of yourself love Pam