My husband and I have lived with mum in her house since dad passed 4 years ago. She was diagnosed with vascular dementia in February 2014. She hates my husband and dotes on my brother who doesn't do a thing for her, other than buy her gifts at Christmas and birthdays and takes her out for the occasional meal. He has always been her No.1 which doesn't bother me but she said today she would sooner live on her own (which she wouldn't be able to do).
I am finding her nastiness increasingly difficult to deal with and I feel like going home to our flat ( which we've rented out). My brother also bought her a dog which I really love but of course it's me that looks after him. My brother never puts his hand in his pocket to help with any costs within the house or vets bills. I have fallen out with my brother over this and today I have felt deflated more than I ever have. I am usually happy go lucky and upbeat.
I am glad I have found this forum to vent my feelings as it's all I seem to talk about woth my husband and friends and I'm sure they must be fed up with me. It's so much harder than i thought it would be.
Jan
I am finding her nastiness increasingly difficult to deal with and I feel like going home to our flat ( which we've rented out). My brother also bought her a dog which I really love but of course it's me that looks after him. My brother never puts his hand in his pocket to help with any costs within the house or vets bills. I have fallen out with my brother over this and today I have felt deflated more than I ever have. I am usually happy go lucky and upbeat.
I am glad I have found this forum to vent my feelings as it's all I seem to talk about woth my husband and friends and I'm sure they must be fed up with me. It's so much harder than i thought it would be.
Jan