Dear All,
FIrstly, Happy New Year to you all. This is my first post and I have to admit I'm struggling with my Mum's dementia.
She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's about 2 years ago. She is now living in sheltered accommodation in a lovely flat which is only a few minutes walk from my house - so everything, until now, has been OK. I visit every day after work, she spends most of the weekends at my house and I have a lovely carer who visits her 3 times a day also (all self-funded), so I am fairly satisfied that I am doing as much as I can to look after her.
However, in the last couple of months she has become increasingly anxious about being left alone. She cries every night when I leave her. She calls me over and over again because she doesn't know where she is and she needs constant reassurance. She is dreadfully unhappy and anxious all the time. I have the same conversations with her constantly. I try to make things better for her and to explain that she is being looked after, but of course, she cannot retain this information. More recently she has been hallucinating and has begun to do 'silly' things for example, she put all her Christmas presents in the fridge! I really think I'm at a different stage with her now and I don't know what to do.
Her condition has deteriorated rapidly since her first diagnosis and I'm not sure for how much longer she will be able to live in her own home. I'm beginning to think that she needs 24 hour care, but I really don't know where to start. Social Care have been pretty useless, to be honest. I just need a bit of advice - is there a charity that could help me with information or shall I just approach care homes on my own? Also, how do I pay for it? My Mum owns her little flat, but I don't think we'll be able to sell it that quickly and I certainly can't afford to pay £1400 a week for care.
It is so upsetting to see my Mum unhappy. When I sold her house in 2017 and bought the new flat so that she could live close to me and her grandsons, I thought that we would be able to do stuff together - nothing out of the ordinary, just shopping trips and family outings, but this has not been the case. Her dementia is now severe. I feel guilty when I'm not with her and if I go away, but it's hard for me too as I am the only child, a single Mum and I work full time.
Apart from that, everything else is OK!!! Any advice would be very welcome. THANK YOU
FIrstly, Happy New Year to you all. This is my first post and I have to admit I'm struggling with my Mum's dementia.
She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's about 2 years ago. She is now living in sheltered accommodation in a lovely flat which is only a few minutes walk from my house - so everything, until now, has been OK. I visit every day after work, she spends most of the weekends at my house and I have a lovely carer who visits her 3 times a day also (all self-funded), so I am fairly satisfied that I am doing as much as I can to look after her.
However, in the last couple of months she has become increasingly anxious about being left alone. She cries every night when I leave her. She calls me over and over again because she doesn't know where she is and she needs constant reassurance. She is dreadfully unhappy and anxious all the time. I have the same conversations with her constantly. I try to make things better for her and to explain that she is being looked after, but of course, she cannot retain this information. More recently she has been hallucinating and has begun to do 'silly' things for example, she put all her Christmas presents in the fridge! I really think I'm at a different stage with her now and I don't know what to do.
Her condition has deteriorated rapidly since her first diagnosis and I'm not sure for how much longer she will be able to live in her own home. I'm beginning to think that she needs 24 hour care, but I really don't know where to start. Social Care have been pretty useless, to be honest. I just need a bit of advice - is there a charity that could help me with information or shall I just approach care homes on my own? Also, how do I pay for it? My Mum owns her little flat, but I don't think we'll be able to sell it that quickly and I certainly can't afford to pay £1400 a week for care.
It is so upsetting to see my Mum unhappy. When I sold her house in 2017 and bought the new flat so that she could live close to me and her grandsons, I thought that we would be able to do stuff together - nothing out of the ordinary, just shopping trips and family outings, but this has not been the case. Her dementia is now severe. I feel guilty when I'm not with her and if I go away, but it's hard for me too as I am the only child, a single Mum and I work full time.
Apart from that, everything else is OK!!! Any advice would be very welcome. THANK YOU