Hello Shedrech,
Thank you for reply. Mum still in hospital, got another problem now, with her chest. Want be back home till they see if she is fit, at the moment they say, it doesn't look good. I was hoping she could come home, she doesn't speak any English and it makes it even more difficult, she doesn't understand when they talk to her, nurses, nor can they understand if she needs something. Tomorrow I will go to the local library where a Council adviser, attends to questions. So, I hope I will get some answers in how to go forward with everything. I have been told, once home, she will have a carer 4 times a day, for half an hour, to give her to eat and lift her on a hoist. It just kills me to see her totally helpless. I was hoping when she comes home and be in a familiar environment, she will get better. Told my brother that we have to contact COP, it is now paramount that we take care of all of her affairs. Today the doctor also told me she will never recover, so this condition is permanent. To watch her in so much pain is excruciating. If after tomorrow I am no wiser, will call Housing again. Last time when I called them, they told me that this is too small and that I am invading her space. Her space is her bad from now on and our parents should always have a chance to be looked by their children, when possible. I sense, this is going to be a long battle, for helping my mother to ease her sufferings and with the council to let me stay and look after her. I will keep posting on how this unravels. This site helped me tremendously and I am so grateful that something like this exists. thank you so much.