Hi Kazza,
I've just been reading your thread, although I feel like I'm being a stalker!! I really feel for you, I feel I have nothing to whinge about, although we have had some troublesome times recently especially when Mum was diagnosed with Crohns disease too. We are still in the early stages though of Alzheimers. .
One thing I was going to ask, has your Mum been put on any antidepressants? My mum was on one type of ADs but she was not coping very well on it. It made her mood very off, very tearful and she was constantly on the phone to me or to the Dr (She phones her Dr every week about something or another). She asked for acupuncture for pain, when she got a physio referral, she told me that she had "a letter and they want to make me do exercises, but I can't do exercises because of the pain I have"
The doctor changed her ADs and her mood is much more settled but I think she is now taking 2 lots of ADs which I am going to query tomorrow, she has an appointment with the mental health team.
So I was wondering if it may be worth asking if there would be a better antidepressant or medicine for your Mum?
My friend works in care home for people with dementia in Barnes. It is a nice home, my friend is one of the best carers around, she really is so compassionate and great at her job. She loves all of her clients and I am pretty sure that there has been no cause for concern for abuse in that place. I know you aee so tired, so worried that you probably can't even think about these things now but I don't think that anyone can go on living like this forever. You will break hun, you are only human xx
My sister is not a nice person at all. She came to see my Dad 3 times when he was dying, called me upstairs to give him morphine and said that she'd leave me to it. It was only medicine, I wasnt injecting him!! She hates my Mum and doesn't have any contact with her at all. But I have learned to not even think about her anymore because she made me so angry for her selfishness. It's hard to accept that some people just don't want to know, some people are just so utterly selfish and it hurts a lot.
Please feel free to rant and rave if you need to. You are taking on far too much, it's time you thought about your needs too. You are still young and you need some quality of life too. I hope that you don't think I'm speaking out of turn but I feel for you both. I don't like people suffering. Sending hugs xx
I've just been reading your thread, although I feel like I'm being a stalker!! I really feel for you, I feel I have nothing to whinge about, although we have had some troublesome times recently especially when Mum was diagnosed with Crohns disease too. We are still in the early stages though of Alzheimers. .
One thing I was going to ask, has your Mum been put on any antidepressants? My mum was on one type of ADs but she was not coping very well on it. It made her mood very off, very tearful and she was constantly on the phone to me or to the Dr (She phones her Dr every week about something or another). She asked for acupuncture for pain, when she got a physio referral, she told me that she had "a letter and they want to make me do exercises, but I can't do exercises because of the pain I have"
The doctor changed her ADs and her mood is much more settled but I think she is now taking 2 lots of ADs which I am going to query tomorrow, she has an appointment with the mental health team.
So I was wondering if it may be worth asking if there would be a better antidepressant or medicine for your Mum?
My friend works in care home for people with dementia in Barnes. It is a nice home, my friend is one of the best carers around, she really is so compassionate and great at her job. She loves all of her clients and I am pretty sure that there has been no cause for concern for abuse in that place. I know you aee so tired, so worried that you probably can't even think about these things now but I don't think that anyone can go on living like this forever. You will break hun, you are only human xx
My sister is not a nice person at all. She came to see my Dad 3 times when he was dying, called me upstairs to give him morphine and said that she'd leave me to it. It was only medicine, I wasnt injecting him!! She hates my Mum and doesn't have any contact with her at all. But I have learned to not even think about her anymore because she made me so angry for her selfishness. It's hard to accept that some people just don't want to know, some people are just so utterly selfish and it hurts a lot.
Please feel free to rant and rave if you need to. You are taking on far too much, it's time you thought about your needs too. You are still young and you need some quality of life too. I hope that you don't think I'm speaking out of turn but I feel for you both. I don't like people suffering. Sending hugs xx