Mum has Alzheimer's disease. Last July everything changed. My Dad became ill and we cared for mum and dad in our home. Dad died in August. We continued to care for mum. It all became too much. A room became available in a nearby CH. We took it. We now realise that the reason it became 'all too much' was because we were exhausted from caring for my terminally ill Dad along with my distressed Mum. We were shattered, grieving, going through paperwork, arranging a funeral etc all while caring for Mum. We now realise that Mum needs to come home after 9 weeks in respite care. Today I spent over four hours at the home with Mum and what a complete eye opener it was. I have let my views be known. We will be bringing Mum home tomorrow. Mum can toilet and wash herself. She can dress herself. Make a cup of tea. Iron. She is mobile. She has moderate Alzheimer's. We will cope. Mum will be with the people who love her. Yes, we will have many sacrifices to make. Yes, there may be upsets. We will do our very best to look after her and make her happy again. Mum isn't very happy in the CH.