Hi,
My Mum, who has Vascular Dementia and AD, is refusing to go to bed at night with her husband of 50 years. She thinks he is a stranger and not only won't get into bed, but is unhappy about him sleeping in the same house as her. She is even uncomfortable about him sleeping in the spare room. As a consequence neither of them is getting much sleep. She spent last night on the sofa (2-seater, so not very comfortable). Has anyone any experience of this sort of issue? We don't know how to deal with it and to help her to feel more secure. Dad is upset, but basically just wants them both to get a good night's sleep, wherever he has to sleep to get it!
She has been getting increasingly aggressive towards my Dad(verbally and on one occasion physically). She often refers to my Dad as "him" and talks to him about "Colin" (my Dad's name). She seems to think on these occasions that my Dad is a strange man in her house. She asks every night when she can go home. I am worried about them both and am not sure how to help. My brother is going to sleep at their house on Saturday to help, but we all have families of our own and this isn't really a long term solution.
Thank you if you have any experiences you can share that might help us to help them.
Sue
My Mum, who has Vascular Dementia and AD, is refusing to go to bed at night with her husband of 50 years. She thinks he is a stranger and not only won't get into bed, but is unhappy about him sleeping in the same house as her. She is even uncomfortable about him sleeping in the spare room. As a consequence neither of them is getting much sleep. She spent last night on the sofa (2-seater, so not very comfortable). Has anyone any experience of this sort of issue? We don't know how to deal with it and to help her to feel more secure. Dad is upset, but basically just wants them both to get a good night's sleep, wherever he has to sleep to get it!
She has been getting increasingly aggressive towards my Dad(verbally and on one occasion physically). She often refers to my Dad as "him" and talks to him about "Colin" (my Dad's name). She seems to think on these occasions that my Dad is a strange man in her house. She asks every night when she can go home. I am worried about them both and am not sure how to help. My brother is going to sleep at their house on Saturday to help, but we all have families of our own and this isn't really a long term solution.
Thank you if you have any experiences you can share that might help us to help them.
Sue