I know you are all so helpful here. I know that I can't force her to the dr, but now I am getting to the stage that I need a dr more than she does!
I don't want to go over old ground, as I have posted some of this before, but to keep it brief(ish), I have suspected my mum has memory loss and showing signs of dementia for a good couple of years. Last November she had a stroke, and she now shows signs of dementia - all of the time.
So that's a quick back story and now I need some help on what has happened in the last few days. I don't know where to turn, I have anxiety and palpitations 24/7!
My dad is her full time "carer", which she hates and won't admit. I suppose because she can still keep house etc. she doesn't see him as that. My dad is 84, and it turns out that he is lying to me. Now is that a sign of him going down the dementia path, or is he trying to protect his 46 year old daughter! On several occasions i have asked him not to lie, and the only way i can help is if he is straight with me. The thing is he is lying about the most ridiculous things.
I have spoken to him about getting POA, I even spoke to a lawyer who said that he would visit my parents at home to sign the papers. I don't want to keep pushing these things because he may back away even more.
They have a nice little nest egg in savings, which I thought was for a rainy day. I have told my dad the rain is coming and it is only going to get worse, he needs to start to consider a "home help/carer" for them both, and surely he can use the money for that. He says "I will speak to your mum".
We went for lunch on Sunday and my mum really struggled with her eating. I tried to quietly help her and she ignored me.
They have both lost vast amounts of weight and yet my dad tells me they are eating "like you wouldn't believe". Well no I don't believe. And if they are eating well,, then there are other issues, because my dad looks like a skeleton.
Then I went to their house yesterday and in the middle of the afternoon they were both drinking. I could also tell that it wasn't there first !
Ok, I feel like I am rambling now! I am sorry but grateful to anyone who has stuck with this and read it through!
Finally, I did exactly what i know is WRONG and I corrected my mum on something she was saying the other day. She looked me straight in the eye and said "well if I am that F...ING wrong I might as well throw myself under a car".
You can see why I am at the end of my rope.
Jxx
I don't want to go over old ground, as I have posted some of this before, but to keep it brief(ish), I have suspected my mum has memory loss and showing signs of dementia for a good couple of years. Last November she had a stroke, and she now shows signs of dementia - all of the time.
So that's a quick back story and now I need some help on what has happened in the last few days. I don't know where to turn, I have anxiety and palpitations 24/7!
My dad is her full time "carer", which she hates and won't admit. I suppose because she can still keep house etc. she doesn't see him as that. My dad is 84, and it turns out that he is lying to me. Now is that a sign of him going down the dementia path, or is he trying to protect his 46 year old daughter! On several occasions i have asked him not to lie, and the only way i can help is if he is straight with me. The thing is he is lying about the most ridiculous things.
I have spoken to him about getting POA, I even spoke to a lawyer who said that he would visit my parents at home to sign the papers. I don't want to keep pushing these things because he may back away even more.
They have a nice little nest egg in savings, which I thought was for a rainy day. I have told my dad the rain is coming and it is only going to get worse, he needs to start to consider a "home help/carer" for them both, and surely he can use the money for that. He says "I will speak to your mum".
We went for lunch on Sunday and my mum really struggled with her eating. I tried to quietly help her and she ignored me.
They have both lost vast amounts of weight and yet my dad tells me they are eating "like you wouldn't believe". Well no I don't believe. And if they are eating well,, then there are other issues, because my dad looks like a skeleton.
Then I went to their house yesterday and in the middle of the afternoon they were both drinking. I could also tell that it wasn't there first !
Ok, I feel like I am rambling now! I am sorry but grateful to anyone who has stuck with this and read it through!
Finally, I did exactly what i know is WRONG and I corrected my mum on something she was saying the other day. She looked me straight in the eye and said "well if I am that F...ING wrong I might as well throw myself under a car".
You can see why I am at the end of my rope.
Jxx