Aaaagh!!! Mum was diagnosed around a year ago and has now got to the stage where she cannot cook herself meals properly or regularly, or take her pills herself, etc. I have, against mums wishes, organised for a home care service from Social Services, which started this week. The first couple of days I was present, and mum put up with someone coming into the house (through gritted teeth). Yesterday I was there briefly and mum wouldn't stay in same room as carer, nor let her do anything. Today was the first day I left them to it. Apparetly mum was very aggressive, was hiding in bed, wouldn't come downstairs, and chased the carer out of the house basically (she was able to get in via the keysafe we had fitted). What are my options if mum wont accept help? She will accept help from me and me alone, but I cannot do it all, or anything like it all. Mum just wont accept that there is anything wrong, just insists she's ok and wants to be left alone to look after herself. I am permanently on the verge of tears and haven't eaten properly for a week, am so worried.