Further to my thread yesterday about trying desperately to get mum to move, which she wont, she also hasnt accepted she has AD. When the consultant broke the news to her she just sat there emotionless I wanted to cry. She has shut it out and I have tried to talk to her about it several times but she just flys off the handle, shuts herself in her bedroom and wont talk. I think if she can accept the situation it may help her realise she needs help. Always been fiercely independant and in her mind she thinks she is doing everything as normal. My dad does all the cooking, she is not even washing clothes now. She is so stubborn and quite arrogant about it all. I feel quite hopeless that unless they move house (which my dad wants)things will get so much worse. I feel she has deteriorated since christmas, she seemed on an even keel when she first started on the aricept, since the dose was increased she has got worse. My dad takes things out on her as he cant cope and I fear it will end badly, with my dad having stroke thru the stress and then my mum being left alone miles from us all.He has heart problems as it is. I want them to move whilst things are at this stage as I feel we can turn things around for them both and give them so much more as they will live across the road from me. At the moment I go once a week thats all I can manage as its an 80 mile round trip, but thats apart from the early hours of the morning dashes we have had to make to their house several times a week because dad is feeling ill, or they have had a fall out and mum is walking the streets with her suitcase. My eldest brother thinks mum should stay where she is if she wants to, he doesnt seem to get it at all. He lives 250 miles away and its me and my other brother who has just started to get involved, who bears the brunt of it all. Sorry to write all this again, its a bit like therapy for me I think. I just dont know which way to turn.