After mum looking after dad (not really very well), he’s now in a nursing home. It’s where he needs to be as at 82, her trying to physically transfer my dad from bed to chair is a nightmare, especially as he’s about 17 stone and she’s 4”11. In addition mum doesn’t think to cut up his food and feeds him rubbish (boiling hot cup a soup in a china cup (no lid) and a donut for lunch). As he tries to get out of bed to use the commode he falls and is admitted to hospital for tests (7 times in a year). Always negative. He stays for weeks for observations and because his care package at home is so complex. Finally he’s in a nursing home around the corner and all was great. However mum is now desperate to get him home to look after as they “aren’t doing it right”. Social services are saying it’s now a safeguarding issue and he will have to stay in a home. However there isn’t a permanent place there, so they’re trying to find one. Meanwhile he now hates it there and is shouting about leaving. Another resident entered his room and threw a Zimmer frame around and an elderly lady won’t leave him alone. In short it’s one big mess and we’re all miserable. I live away so can only get there every other week as I have kids. Mum rings me distressed that they’re “taking her husband away” . Myself and my brothers don’t know what to do. Nobody does. I just need to vent.