Hi, I am new to this and I am finding it so helpful, it would be fantastic if anyone could offer me some advice to the problems I am having, and I am very happy to offer advice to anyone I can help also.
My mum is 59 and was diagnosed with Alzheimers about 6 years ago, she is in the more severe stage of the disease, needs 24 hr care. My dad has been her carer for all this time without any help. I have recently become my mums second carer as my dad was struggling and it was beginning to take a serious toll on his health also. She was not liking strange people coming to the house and it was stressing her out so I decided to take on the role.
I have given up work to care from my mum and have been doing so full time for about 2 months. My mums behaviour over the last week or so has deterioated and she has become very difficult, not eating, saying no to every suggestion we make, refusing to go out the house and being very aggitated, pacing, sitting in another room away from us and constantly saying she wants to go home. Even though we reassure her she is in her own house, she keeps saying it and she gets frustrated and annoyed.
Myself coming in as a second carer has helped my dad as I am managing to get her washed and dressed in the morning which my father was having difficulty with, and I think there is trust there, even though she does not think I am her daughter, she knows I am kind etc. But her mood swings are awful and at times she will look at me like she hates me.
I try to give her loads of attention, do activities with her like baking cakes, painting nails etc, that does sometimes lighten her mood, but the last week or so she has not wanted to do anything and is extremely moody.
My dad says that this is the behaviour that she showed before I started to care for her full time, so it may be a case that she has got used to me now and has reverted back to her old ways.
I did read that someone saying they want to go home means they are anxious, want to feel like they want to be doing something and perhaps trying to revert to their old life style before the illness, but my mum has lost total interest in everything round the house, shopping etc. So trying to improve her self esteem by getting her involved in washing up, cleaning etc is no good, she is not interested.
Has anyone got any suggestions on anything that can help my situation. I have thought about consulting a doctor to change her medication this week. But If there is anything I could do to improve the situation I would feel alot better.
Many Thanks and look forward to hearing peoples responses.
My mum is 59 and was diagnosed with Alzheimers about 6 years ago, she is in the more severe stage of the disease, needs 24 hr care. My dad has been her carer for all this time without any help. I have recently become my mums second carer as my dad was struggling and it was beginning to take a serious toll on his health also. She was not liking strange people coming to the house and it was stressing her out so I decided to take on the role.
I have given up work to care from my mum and have been doing so full time for about 2 months. My mums behaviour over the last week or so has deterioated and she has become very difficult, not eating, saying no to every suggestion we make, refusing to go out the house and being very aggitated, pacing, sitting in another room away from us and constantly saying she wants to go home. Even though we reassure her she is in her own house, she keeps saying it and she gets frustrated and annoyed.
Myself coming in as a second carer has helped my dad as I am managing to get her washed and dressed in the morning which my father was having difficulty with, and I think there is trust there, even though she does not think I am her daughter, she knows I am kind etc. But her mood swings are awful and at times she will look at me like she hates me.
I try to give her loads of attention, do activities with her like baking cakes, painting nails etc, that does sometimes lighten her mood, but the last week or so she has not wanted to do anything and is extremely moody.
My dad says that this is the behaviour that she showed before I started to care for her full time, so it may be a case that she has got used to me now and has reverted back to her old ways.
I did read that someone saying they want to go home means they are anxious, want to feel like they want to be doing something and perhaps trying to revert to their old life style before the illness, but my mum has lost total interest in everything round the house, shopping etc. So trying to improve her self esteem by getting her involved in washing up, cleaning etc is no good, she is not interested.
Has anyone got any suggestions on anything that can help my situation. I have thought about consulting a doctor to change her medication this week. But If there is anything I could do to improve the situation I would feel alot better.
Many Thanks and look forward to hearing peoples responses.
