Hi I’m new just joined so finding my way around the forum . My mum has been deteriorating slowly for the last 10 years approximately , she refused tests so hard to know when it really started . She nursed my dad through cancer he died 5 years ago but he was caring for her too with her memory loss . She is 93 still determined to stay in her home but she would be so much better in care . She has 4 care visits a day . we have a wonderful carer who goes in for 4 hours weekly to shop clean etc. . It’s becoming more and more difficult for myself and my 2 sisters to visit and keep the house going, there always seems to be something to fix . She is very difficult and can be very selfish stubborn as a mule although she can be lovely and sweet too . She’s recently been getting angry with the cares , She still manages to be taken to a lunch club but her walking is steadily deteriorating
My elder sister is unwell and lives a 6 hr drive away , my younger sister is 4hrs away is 60 and working , she tries to visit every six weeks . I am a 40 mins drive away but am often away helping with my 3 grandchildren the eldest has bladder and bowel problems the little one has some issues at school after a really bad concussion . My daughter needs support with the children I am 66 have lupus , fibrosing alopecia and underactive thyroid I just can’t keep helping my mum . She flatly refuses to go into home , I was coping but a bad virus has flattened me , Im loosing my hair again , My mum has always leant on me emotionally as dad was mentally unstable . Writing this down makes me see how crazy this situation is , it’s destroying me . She was treated recently with antibiotics for a chest infection ,recovered easily . So that’s it folks , at least I’m now getting my pension and have a supportive wonderful husband .
My elder sister is unwell and lives a 6 hr drive away , my younger sister is 4hrs away is 60 and working , she tries to visit every six weeks . I am a 40 mins drive away but am often away helping with my 3 grandchildren the eldest has bladder and bowel problems the little one has some issues at school after a really bad concussion . My daughter needs support with the children I am 66 have lupus , fibrosing alopecia and underactive thyroid I just can’t keep helping my mum . She flatly refuses to go into home , I was coping but a bad virus has flattened me , Im loosing my hair again , My mum has always leant on me emotionally as dad was mentally unstable . Writing this down makes me see how crazy this situation is , it’s destroying me . She was treated recently with antibiotics for a chest infection ,recovered easily . So that’s it folks , at least I’m now getting my pension and have a supportive wonderful husband .
