Big hello to everyone. I haven't been on the forum for a long time but have felt the need to return. My Mum has taken a big downturn (for her) - stopped speaking apart from odd word; not wanting to eat or drink; closing eyes most of the time; and just looking so unhappy for last few weeks. She has been treated for oral and vaginal thrush the last week and a half, so I realise this could be making her feel very unwell. GP called me last week to say the general concensus is that it is also a downturn in her condition and I was really fearing the worst. I'm going in to her Care Home every day and trying to feed her what I can with mixed results. Some days she has eaten some jelly, sometimes some custard, sometimes some yoghurt. It is a few teaspoons at most, and one teaspoon other times. She will either keep the food in her mouth forever or sometimes spit it out. She has even refused chocolate buttons! She used to have a good appetite until last few weeks, so has lost quite a bit of weight too. I'm finding the miserable look on her face so hard as she can't really tell me how she feels and I'm desperately trying to know what to say to her. I held her hand for a while tonight and always tell her I love her. But to be honest it feels like she is giving up and/or depressed. She has had Alzheimer's/Vascular dementia for about 9 years, in care for 6 and aged 86. Just so horrible to go and visit and come away feeling wretched and like I don't brighten her day anymore, like I used to. I guess it's a waiting game. Apologies for the long post. If anyone has any tips they'd be much appreciated. I know many of you will have been through similar. Thank u. G x
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