My 93 year old mother has been my 85 year old father's carer - he has Alzheimers. At the weekend he went into a rage, told her to get out of the house, then physically dragged her out of the house and threw her onto the grass outside. My mother has been staying with my sister since the incident, and we have been trying to arrange emergency in-home care for my dad while we look for a care home.
In the meantime my mum has become really worrried about him, has said that she doesn't want my dad to go into a care home, and that she wants to go back and try to care for him again.
Dad has clearly been confused, afraid and upset because she hasn't been around, and keeps asking where she is. I've explained what happened, but he doesn't recall any of it. He wants to call her to make things right.
Obviously we're very concerned that she'll be put at risk if she goes back, although my dad hasn't shown any signs of aggression or violent behaviour since the incident.
The possibility of a urinary tract infection has been raised, but he refuses to provide a urine sample. The nurse has now prescribed antibiotics so we'll never know.
I was wondering whether anyone had views on whether we should allow mum to go back to dad?
In the meantime my mum has become really worrried about him, has said that she doesn't want my dad to go into a care home, and that she wants to go back and try to care for him again.
Dad has clearly been confused, afraid and upset because she hasn't been around, and keeps asking where she is. I've explained what happened, but he doesn't recall any of it. He wants to call her to make things right.
Obviously we're very concerned that she'll be put at risk if she goes back, although my dad hasn't shown any signs of aggression or violent behaviour since the incident.
The possibility of a urinary tract infection has been raised, but he refuses to provide a urine sample. The nurse has now prescribed antibiotics so we'll never know.
I was wondering whether anyone had views on whether we should allow mum to go back to dad?