- May 10, 2020
Hi there! Yes of course you can ask This has all come on rather suddenly, since early March. So no, its not been that long really. However, what you say is absolutely true - we won't know how she is until she's home, and we can monitor things. I guess we're thinking 'worse case scenarios' to ensure we have all the right things in place. But with any luck she'll actually not be too bad. It's very reassuring to hear how your dad is now... I'd be a bit concerned if they stopped the package after only 7 days, but as long we they gave us clear reasons I guess we could accept that. The challenge is that I'm so far away, and my brother's job means he really can't 'be on hand'. So she really is on her own to all intents and purposes. So I hope they wouldn't stop the visits completely! Thanks so much for your reassuring wordsCan I just ask if your Mum was showing signs of dementia for some time before she went in? My dad had been for some years without a diagnosis. He then had an episode of Delirium after my Mum died due to him not eating or drinking properly. He was in hospital for 9 weeks where he was diagnosed with dementia. He was terrible when he was in hospital , thought he was back at work, confused, not sleeping, wandering off, seeing things, and we were seriously thinking he would need to go straight into a Care Home. He was sent home with a Care package similar to yours but this was stopped after 7 days because once he was home he could microwave a meal , make tea etc. He actually greatly improved once home. I think the hospital environment is not good to make a judgement about the care needed. A year later my Dad is still managing alone with visits from myself and my sister and is only just starting to worry us, think this is due to less contact during lockdown. My advice would be to see how she copes once home as she may not need as much care as you initially think. Just make sure everywhere is as safe as it can be. My dad doesn't use the cooker , just the microwave.