Mum has been in a care home for a few weeks. We thought she may have been settling a little as my dad has had some better visits, but yesterday she was shouting at him that he put her there, no one visits, she hates it there, getting very angry saying other residents are idiots she is going to hit them. Mum has always been very strong willed and the illness
Has changed her personality in many ways. When mum is like this during visits we come out feeling ill ourselves, with guilt and the realisation that if she doesn't settle it makes it difficult for us to take her out and try to have some nice outings. I don't want to take my little boy to see her if she is like this, full of anger. I also wonder if it does mum any good as she does seem to be more settled when we don't visit. Perhaps that is the answer, not to visit so often for mum's sake? My dad is going through chemotherapy and he is becoming depressed, finding visits so draining. Things are never going to be the same for mum or us now she is in a care home, but it's how to handle visits and emotions?
Has changed her personality in many ways. When mum is like this during visits we come out feeling ill ourselves, with guilt and the realisation that if she doesn't settle it makes it difficult for us to take her out and try to have some nice outings. I don't want to take my little boy to see her if she is like this, full of anger. I also wonder if it does mum any good as she does seem to be more settled when we don't visit. Perhaps that is the answer, not to visit so often for mum's sake? My dad is going through chemotherapy and he is becoming depressed, finding visits so draining. Things are never going to be the same for mum or us now she is in a care home, but it's how to handle visits and emotions?