Hi All, my mum has been in hospital for two weeks now after having a fall at home and breaking a bone in her neck. She was on 24 hour 1 - 1 supervision because the fracture was unstable and she refused to wear a collar.
Mum hasn't settled well, she was moved to 5 different wards in a week, she's now been in a room on her own for a week. She swings from being a very nice lady to being very negative, everything is 'no', she begs and begs me to take her home, she is extremely argumentative, takes my belongings and stuffs them anywhere on herself and refuses to give them back, she cries, she loses her temper and throws things, shoves the overbed tray across the room, sits on other patients beds, tries to take their belongings, grabs me, scratches, pulls and shoves me till my shoulders and back are sore, - and the hospital telephone me to visit and see if I can calm her down! No - the only thing that will calm her is for her to go back to her own home and that is not possible. Whilst she is not at high risk of falls, the neck injury will always be a weak area and another fall could be fatal. What a nightmare, she is fit for discharge but to a nursing assessment bed in a care home 20 miles away from where I live and I have a visual impairment that makes driving in the dark too difficult for me. I was so upset today for the first time, nothing I do helps her. What an awful time for everyone. How do people manage emotionally? My heart feels like it will break into pieces.
Mum hasn't settled well, she was moved to 5 different wards in a week, she's now been in a room on her own for a week. She swings from being a very nice lady to being very negative, everything is 'no', she begs and begs me to take her home, she is extremely argumentative, takes my belongings and stuffs them anywhere on herself and refuses to give them back, she cries, she loses her temper and throws things, shoves the overbed tray across the room, sits on other patients beds, tries to take their belongings, grabs me, scratches, pulls and shoves me till my shoulders and back are sore, - and the hospital telephone me to visit and see if I can calm her down! No - the only thing that will calm her is for her to go back to her own home and that is not possible. Whilst she is not at high risk of falls, the neck injury will always be a weak area and another fall could be fatal. What a nightmare, she is fit for discharge but to a nursing assessment bed in a care home 20 miles away from where I live and I have a visual impairment that makes driving in the dark too difficult for me. I was so upset today for the first time, nothing I do helps her. What an awful time for everyone. How do people manage emotionally? My heart feels like it will break into pieces.