I know this is a topic that comes up a lot, but I went to visit my mum in the care home today and she was asleep yet again when I arrived. She woke up for all of 30 seconds when I got there and then just went back to sleep. I stayed half an hour in case she woke up again but she was snoring contentedly so I gave up and left. The staff say she's sleepy all the time and she's been checked by GP on many occasions who find no medical cause.
I used to think she slept because of boredom because she'd wake up and be all cheerful when I visited. In the last few months, though, she just goes back to sleep almost as soon as I arrive, lasting only a matter of a couple of minutes (today's 30 seconds was her new record!) before drifting off again. If it's just boredom, wouldn't a visitor be enough to keep her awake?
I feel guilty for only staying a short while, but what is the point when she's asleep? I feel like I'm letting her down by not visiting her properly but it doesn't seem to matter to her anyway. Does anyone else have this? What do you do about visiting if the person is literally asleep all time?
I know this is part of the disease but after everything we've been through together I finally feel like there's nothing left that I can do for her, and it's an odd feeling. I'm not sure what to do now.
I used to think she slept because of boredom because she'd wake up and be all cheerful when I visited. In the last few months, though, she just goes back to sleep almost as soon as I arrive, lasting only a matter of a couple of minutes (today's 30 seconds was her new record!) before drifting off again. If it's just boredom, wouldn't a visitor be enough to keep her awake?
I feel guilty for only staying a short while, but what is the point when she's asleep? I feel like I'm letting her down by not visiting her properly but it doesn't seem to matter to her anyway. Does anyone else have this? What do you do about visiting if the person is literally asleep all time?
I know this is part of the disease but after everything we've been through together I finally feel like there's nothing left that I can do for her, and it's an odd feeling. I'm not sure what to do now.