Hi everyone,
I’ve joined this community as I’m really looking for some help or advice.
The situation concerns my Mum. We noticed some strange signs a couple of years ago when her handwriting deteriorated and also she seemed to be confused in social gatherings...but just put this down to old age ....however, since the end of last year she seems to have got a lot worse. Her speech in particular is terrible - she has completely forgotten the meaning of a lot of words and she just cannot seem to articulate anything anymore. Her emails are now pretty much close to being illegible too. Her short term memory is really declining and she has difficulty in remembering anything she has just been told. On top of this, she’s also losing loads of weight (she weighs less than 6 stone at the moment) so I’m not sure if she’s just forgetting to eat or what’s happening.
My Mum is adamant that nothing is wrong with her. She’s always been a really stubborn person but this seems to have got so much worse since then dementia symptoms became more prevalent. I’ve spoken to her about my concerns, as have my brothers, but she thinks nothing is remotely wrong with her.
I did manage to get her to the doctor recently on the pretence that it was just for a Coronavirus check-up. My Mum was really confused when he went through the cognitive test and then started yelling at the doctor, demanding to know what was going on - the Doctor wasn’t great either and started yelling back at her with “I’ve already told you this” ....suffice to say, we are no closer to getting her diagnosed.
This situation is made even worse by the fact that my Mum has put her house up for sale and wants to move. She doesn’t want to move anywhere though - she wants to go to the Highlands of Scotland ! (She did live there about 15 years ago when she retired but didn’t like the fact that it was so isolated and didn’t get to see family much - all our family are in London. Now she has decided that she loved every second up there and should never have moved, which is just completely not true).
I’m really at a loss about what I can do here. I can’t seem to get her diagnosed and if she moved I feel it will be terrible for her, if she’s so far away from family and we can’t even check on her. Me and my family have tried everything to talk her out of the move - We’ve tried to talk to her rationally, we’ve argued with her, we’ve tried to say she won’t see her grandchildren at all. Nothing is working. I’m also shocked that the Estate Agent is letting the sale go ahead because you can tell just by talking to my Mum that something is not right - I mean, she literally cannot string a sentence together that you’d understand.
Thanks for reading and I know that this is a bit of long post so if you’ve got this far I appreciate it! I just wanted to share this problem and see if anyone else has experienced this or if anyone has any useful advice.
Thanks all!
I’ve joined this community as I’m really looking for some help or advice.
The situation concerns my Mum. We noticed some strange signs a couple of years ago when her handwriting deteriorated and also she seemed to be confused in social gatherings...but just put this down to old age ....however, since the end of last year she seems to have got a lot worse. Her speech in particular is terrible - she has completely forgotten the meaning of a lot of words and she just cannot seem to articulate anything anymore. Her emails are now pretty much close to being illegible too. Her short term memory is really declining and she has difficulty in remembering anything she has just been told. On top of this, she’s also losing loads of weight (she weighs less than 6 stone at the moment) so I’m not sure if she’s just forgetting to eat or what’s happening.
My Mum is adamant that nothing is wrong with her. She’s always been a really stubborn person but this seems to have got so much worse since then dementia symptoms became more prevalent. I’ve spoken to her about my concerns, as have my brothers, but she thinks nothing is remotely wrong with her.
I did manage to get her to the doctor recently on the pretence that it was just for a Coronavirus check-up. My Mum was really confused when he went through the cognitive test and then started yelling at the doctor, demanding to know what was going on - the Doctor wasn’t great either and started yelling back at her with “I’ve already told you this” ....suffice to say, we are no closer to getting her diagnosed.
This situation is made even worse by the fact that my Mum has put her house up for sale and wants to move. She doesn’t want to move anywhere though - she wants to go to the Highlands of Scotland ! (She did live there about 15 years ago when she retired but didn’t like the fact that it was so isolated and didn’t get to see family much - all our family are in London. Now she has decided that she loved every second up there and should never have moved, which is just completely not true).
I’m really at a loss about what I can do here. I can’t seem to get her diagnosed and if she moved I feel it will be terrible for her, if she’s so far away from family and we can’t even check on her. Me and my family have tried everything to talk her out of the move - We’ve tried to talk to her rationally, we’ve argued with her, we’ve tried to say she won’t see her grandchildren at all. Nothing is working. I’m also shocked that the Estate Agent is letting the sale go ahead because you can tell just by talking to my Mum that something is not right - I mean, she literally cannot string a sentence together that you’d understand.
Thanks for reading and I know that this is a bit of long post so if you’ve got this far I appreciate it! I just wanted to share this problem and see if anyone else has experienced this or if anyone has any useful advice.
Thanks all!