I have not posted for quite a while now. Mum was settled in a home and doing ok.
She fell, 5 weeks ago, and fractured her hip. She needed an operation to pin it but the doctor warned us that she might not walk again.
She became delirious in hospital. Whether from the fall, the anaesthetic, or a UTI. She deteriorated very quickly and began refusing food.
Mum was released back to the home just 16 days ago. She has not eaten since and is barely drinking- only a sip when prompted. She is very weak, has lost so much weight her bones are sticking out and even a sip of water gives her dreadful gas, which is painful. Mum is sleeping a lot, but when awake just says she wants to die. She also keeps taking these shuddering great breaths as if she is struggling to breathe.
I can't believe I have had to raise this with the care home. It seems no one was aware how long it has been since she has eaten. I think she has ketosis, there is that awful metallic smell about her. I have asked them to call the doctor, who will come tomorrow, but they say he will ask if we want mum to be taken to hospital. I don't know. What will/can they do? Is this likely the end stages? If so, how is it managed? The home/hospital/hospice? I can't bear to see her in this state, there is no quality of life and she just wants to die.
She fell, 5 weeks ago, and fractured her hip. She needed an operation to pin it but the doctor warned us that she might not walk again.
She became delirious in hospital. Whether from the fall, the anaesthetic, or a UTI. She deteriorated very quickly and began refusing food.
Mum was released back to the home just 16 days ago. She has not eaten since and is barely drinking- only a sip when prompted. She is very weak, has lost so much weight her bones are sticking out and even a sip of water gives her dreadful gas, which is painful. Mum is sleeping a lot, but when awake just says she wants to die. She also keeps taking these shuddering great breaths as if she is struggling to breathe.
I can't believe I have had to raise this with the care home. It seems no one was aware how long it has been since she has eaten. I think she has ketosis, there is that awful metallic smell about her. I have asked them to call the doctor, who will come tomorrow, but they say he will ask if we want mum to be taken to hospital. I don't know. What will/can they do? Is this likely the end stages? If so, how is it managed? The home/hospital/hospice? I can't bear to see her in this state, there is no quality of life and she just wants to die.