I'm a newby here. I am losing a battle with my mum. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 6 years ago and so far she has coped quite well. We moved her to an apartment in a retirement development where she lives on the ground floor - a few yards from the residents lounge etc. My problems with her began about a year ago when she would get up and wander down the hall into the residents lounge wearing her nighty. This is embarrassing as other residents have to put her back in the flat. Unfortunately, when she wakes in the morning it takes about half an hour for her to get her brain in gear - prior to this she is constantly asking "where am I and what am I doing here". This is why she is wandering. The House Manager recommended to me that I get a carer (privately funded) to get her up, wash, dress and offer breakfast. So I did this and initially it worked. But now they are having difficulty getting her up out of bed. Obviously, they can't manhandle her. I have tried to help but she is just absolutely refusing to get out of bed no matter what we try to do - she shouts at us. This week she has slept all day Sunday, Monday and now Tuesday looks like its going the same way. I don't mind the fact that she wants to stay in bed but she is not washing or changing her underwear (which she insists on wearing to bed!). Should I cancel the care package and just let her get on with it?? The other problem is that she will NOT get in the shower. What do I do?