Hello. This is my first post although I have been reading many of the posts and comments on here for some time, A brief outline of my problem. My mum is in her 80's, lives alone and has been managing quite well until recently. Her deterioration seems quite rapid and her confusion sometimes extreme. For the last five days she has been packing her things to 'go home'. Day 1 was to go to where she was evacuated during the war. I know my reaction was wrong but I was so shocked to see carrier bags packed with some of the daftest things, and I challenged what she was doing. Day 2 was the same but her clothes were all over the bed and ornaments and photographs were taken down. Day 3 was the same.By now I had replaced everything in its place (3 times) and discussed why she wanted to go home and tried to explain that where she lives is now her home. Her confusion is based around where she lived as a child and when her Dad went off with 'that other woman' and her Uncle used to look after her and her sister. Day 4 all the kitchen things were in the lounge and ornaments and photographs all down again. I did my usual replacing of things and she then agreed that she should live here and that she wasnt going home.
Today she was busy putting things in their new place as this was her home and she was happy that she was staying and that I was close by. I asked if she was sleeping ok and she said she was. She wont do the urine sample the GP asked for as she keeps forgetting. So I left today feeling a little better.
Phone call tonight - was I going round tomorrow to take her home? I said that it would not be tomorrow and that she was at home. She said she did not want to be left alone. She seems quite anxious but Im not sure of the trigger.
How long will this last? How to I prevent her getting further thoughts about moving and actually taking herself out? Where she lived as a child has long gone and has been replaced with a car wash! My love lies are good but Im not sure what to do next. Any helpful ideas would be appreciated. Thank you
Today she was busy putting things in their new place as this was her home and she was happy that she was staying and that I was close by. I asked if she was sleeping ok and she said she was. She wont do the urine sample the GP asked for as she keeps forgetting. So I left today feeling a little better.
Phone call tonight - was I going round tomorrow to take her home? I said that it would not be tomorrow and that she was at home. She said she did not want to be left alone. She seems quite anxious but Im not sure of the trigger.
How long will this last? How to I prevent her getting further thoughts about moving and actually taking herself out? Where she lived as a child has long gone and has been replaced with a car wash! My love lies are good but Im not sure what to do next. Any helpful ideas would be appreciated. Thank you