Having agonised, and gone through that many sleepless nights, I have lost count, about not having mum home for Christmas day on the advice of the NH staff. (This was the first Christmas in 33 years I have not cooked Christmas lunch for her).
The day before Christmas Eve they had a party at the NH. Mum had a fine time, singing along to 40’s music, reminiscing with the others about RAF dances she used to go to with my dad.
All the family made sure all her presents were delivered in time for Christmas Eve, she had dozens. Once the residents were asleep they were put under the tree ready for the morning.
Christmas morning, mum flatly refused a glass of Sherry to toast the day (unheard of!!), she did however enjoy several glasses of wine with her lunch!
When the staff gave out the presents, mum totally refused all hers, telling the staff to take them to her room, and that as soon as I showed up, I was to be given the whole lot, as they are, unwrapped!!
My brother, my niece, her husband and the children visited yesterday, not a word was mentioned about the presents, or anything else.
Obviously mum is saving this little treat for me. Just in case the old guilt monster had slipped a bit, mum is making sure he is firmly back up there around my neck ready to strangle the life out of me.
Sorry to moan, but just needed to share that.
Cate
The day before Christmas Eve they had a party at the NH. Mum had a fine time, singing along to 40’s music, reminiscing with the others about RAF dances she used to go to with my dad.
All the family made sure all her presents were delivered in time for Christmas Eve, she had dozens. Once the residents were asleep they were put under the tree ready for the morning.
Christmas morning, mum flatly refused a glass of Sherry to toast the day (unheard of!!), she did however enjoy several glasses of wine with her lunch!
When the staff gave out the presents, mum totally refused all hers, telling the staff to take them to her room, and that as soon as I showed up, I was to be given the whole lot, as they are, unwrapped!!
My brother, my niece, her husband and the children visited yesterday, not a word was mentioned about the presents, or anything else.
Obviously mum is saving this little treat for me. Just in case the old guilt monster had slipped a bit, mum is making sure he is firmly back up there around my neck ready to strangle the life out of me.
Sorry to moan, but just needed to share that.
Cate