SS financial assessment will mean that someone - brother - will have to disclose what money your mum has. You can refuse, but they will assume you're self-funding, and won't give any help - at least that's the impression I got from the forms I was given.
Your brother could not easily have got your POA revoked, what ever he says. You could hardly be accused of misusing it - chance would be a fine thing! Your mother herself would've had to revoke it, and I imagine that would involve a discussion without anyone else present. A solicitor would need to be assured that she was capable of making, and understanding the implications of, that decision, and that she wasn't being coerced into it - your comment "Mum would have agreed to anything her son suggested" - says it all.
As I have said before, your mother was happy for you to be an attorney at the time it was completed. I know you say now that your mum doesn't trust you, but I can't help feeling this is the dementia talking, rather than her true feelings. Her current suspicions / distrust seem to be fuelled by your brother, rather than direct from her.
I am sure there are many families where one attorney wants another removed, simply because they want control - that in itself is not justification to revoke.
I can only assume he thinks you're going to bottle it at the last minute, and won't pursue the OPG investigation. I really have no idea why he is refusing to co-operate, if he hasn't done anything wrong.
Although far from ideal, at least your mum is getting some foods that she can open and eat. Something is better than nothing, but she must have a hot meal once a day. You will need to be inventive in working out how she will accept someone in to do this. Covid may be a blight on our lives, but it's a very good excuse for a free government incentive to "keep elderly people people safe at home", "provide assessments for new carers", "provide employment for those who have lost their jobs" - or whatever scenario she would go with. Don't mention that she's paying for it, she doesn't need to know!
No. not out of the woods, but you are getting nearer the open ground. Hold your course.
Your brother could not easily have got your POA revoked, what ever he says. You could hardly be accused of misusing it - chance would be a fine thing! Your mother herself would've had to revoke it, and I imagine that would involve a discussion without anyone else present. A solicitor would need to be assured that she was capable of making, and understanding the implications of, that decision, and that she wasn't being coerced into it - your comment "Mum would have agreed to anything her son suggested" - says it all.
As I have said before, your mother was happy for you to be an attorney at the time it was completed. I know you say now that your mum doesn't trust you, but I can't help feeling this is the dementia talking, rather than her true feelings. Her current suspicions / distrust seem to be fuelled by your brother, rather than direct from her.
I am sure there are many families where one attorney wants another removed, simply because they want control - that in itself is not justification to revoke.
I can only assume he thinks you're going to bottle it at the last minute, and won't pursue the OPG investigation. I really have no idea why he is refusing to co-operate, if he hasn't done anything wrong.
Although far from ideal, at least your mum is getting some foods that she can open and eat. Something is better than nothing, but she must have a hot meal once a day. You will need to be inventive in working out how she will accept someone in to do this. Covid may be a blight on our lives, but it's a very good excuse for a free government incentive to "keep elderly people people safe at home", "provide assessments for new carers", "provide employment for those who have lost their jobs" - or whatever scenario she would go with. Don't mention that she's paying for it, she doesn't need to know!
No. not out of the woods, but you are getting nearer the open ground. Hold your course.