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Mum nearing the end but CH on lockdown

Can't do it alone

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Mar 29, 2020
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It’s a long time since I’ve posted on here, since Mum went into a wonderful care home it’s just over 4 years now she’s almost 96 with VD. She’s gradually declined over the last year and have had 3 or 4 times when we were told this was it, but she kept us on our toes by rallying each time. The last time mum was put on end of life care, that was last August. My brother and I visited 2/3 times a week each so she always had someone with her every day. We've realised of late that she didn’t really know who we were but was happy for us to sit with her. The home went into lockdown just under 3 weeks ago, the staff who are brilliant have been keeping us in touch. The manager phoned last week to say mum was refusing food and drinking very little. Yesterday I had the call to say she was very weak now, and most likely shutting down, they were going to continue trying to get fluids into her. I don’t know if she would have been able to understand that nobody’s was visiting and she been abandoned. The Doctor’s seen her today and confirmed she likely won’t last the week. I’m distraught not being able to see her or hold her hand, to tell her that I love her and just be with her when she passes on her final journey. I completely understand the safety aspects but it’s so hard to have come all this way with mum but not be able to be with her in her final moments. Apologies for the long post
Just hold on to the precious fact that she was loved, that you were loved, nothing else either of you could have done will surpass that.
 

bdmid

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Dec 4, 2013
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Bristol
Just hold on to the precious fact that she was loved, that you were loved, nothing else either of you could have done will surpass that.
Thank you so much you know you’ve done all you could but it’s comforting when someone tells you that. Thanks to everyone on this forum for the care and compassion shown to those in these awful situations ❤❤❤