Hi all, I have decided that mum needs to be in safer accomodation (shes alone in a 3 bedroomed house that is litterally a hideous mess, a place I wouldnt feal happy about managing in myself let alone for my mother to manage in!) Luckily the housing officer has accepted this is urgant and has agreed to get an imediate move arranged. The only problem is that she has to sign a form saying she wants to move, yet she is adamant she doesnt want to move. Each time i speak with her she is pleading and upset to begin with, but comes round to the idea after a while. She cant grasp why or where shes going. The next day I see her and she's back to square one again, or worse. Either forgot completly about it, or remebering something about it and getting in a state about it. Forinstance I had her with me at my home the otherday, and before we took her home i talked about it with her and she seamed to be reluctanly agreeing with me. Even smiling when i talked about how nice it would be. The next day the carer who visited in the morning found mum paking bags, crying saying someone was taking her away. and that she didnt know where why or with who. she denys there is anything wrong with her, and believes she can manage. But with AD and severe osteoarthritis she truely cant. She cannot get in or out of the bath, and does not undertand that its unhealthy to leave bin bags in the living room. and thats just the tip of the iceberge, im sure with all your experience you have a fair idea about all the rest without me telling you! So ok, the problem lies in what happens if she wont sign the form. what next? am i allowed to force her, does a doctor have to rule she must, or would power of attorney which i havent sorted out yet give me to power to make this decision for her. I cant seem to get answars for any so called health and social professionals, which i am sure surprises you all.......NOT I'm mad cause the same Specialist that diagnosed 'moderate AD' 2 years ago, reassed her 2 weeks ago saying that he thought that it was just lonliness and depression that is making her so forgetful now. Yeah right!!!!!!!!!!!! then promply insisted he was convinced she was a drinker and was drunk at the time of assesment. Which blatently isnt true, she cant stand alcohol, and nearly gags at even a wine and orange juice at christmas. Plus she is incapable of doing her own shopping and a care agency does it. There is no alcohol in the house. I was fuming. This is the woman who will eat dinner at my home and ask what shes eating. Not the dish, im talking potato ect........... now when a woman diagnosed with AD has the conversation "whats this then?, doesnt taste like anything" reply "its called a potato mum" You think nothing of it. But apparently this is someone who is just a little lonely and depressed. How can that doctor have the front to say that, he was the very person who diagnosed the AD in the first place. Perhaps i should get him round when I'm bathing her and she doesnt understand she has to take her clothes of first. Or that knickers go under clothes.