Hi everyone, My Mum lives many hundreds of miles away from me. I live in Devon and Mum lives in Durham City. I have a young daughter who is sight and hearing impaired, she is at college in Devon and hubby travels with his work, which means I can't travel up to see Mum as often as I'd like. I do have 4 brothers who live fairly close to my mum, but they don't seem willing or able to chase things up. I do most of the chasing up from my home. Dad was Mum's carer until December 2017, when he was diagnosed with global heart failure and was given a year to live. it's taken me over a year to get care in place for Mum as well as dad, the care, (I use the term loosely) was 30 minutes for dad, 4 x per day in 12 hours, however, it was nearer a maximum of 5 minutes. They'd walk in, ask if Mum and Dad needed help, then leave after giving Dad his meds. I finally got a social worker out to assess Mum too, grudgingly admittedly. He then basically took 15 minutes off Dad to give to Mum, which means they are no better off really, no one doing housework, I can't access their bank accounts to arrange help with a cleaner, for example, that being said, if the carers were going in for 30 minutes 4 x a day, they could help with cleaning, washing etc. they're not even making sure that Mum is washed and dressed with clean clothes. Our GP recently asked if they could move near to me. I thought about it seriously and even spoke to our daughter's social worker. He informed me that whilst it could be done, it would probably take some considerable time. (Trying to be completely unselfish) I thought about the pro's and con's, whilst I myself am also disabled, I would still be able to visit Mum and Dad every day, keep an eye on them etc. even possibly arrange for cleaners, however, we live in a rural area of Devon, Dad would in all probability give up driving completely, which would mean that both Mum and Dad were completely reliant upon me, also, where they are now, Mum likes being in their current home, because she is surrounded by a place she knows, she can even walk to the shops. But I get more and more worried about them. I feel like banging my brother's heads together, love them as I do, Two years ago we lost our sister to cancer. She lived near them and would've kept an eye on them. I'm not sure Mum or dad would survive a big move. It's so very hard. Finally, I've heard recently from my brother that Mum has started falling regularly. This doesn't surprise me as the same brother told me recently that he visited Mum and Dad with his very large Staffie. Louis was wearing a bright blue harness. My brother left Louis in the kitchen, Mum went into the kitchen and screamed, brother ran in quickly and said she was talking about a blue carrier bag moving around on its own. I imagine (because our daughter has cerebral visual impairment and auditory processing disorder) that it isn't unlike this, in that the brain isn't processing what the eyes are sending to the brain. The images are getting mixed up perhaps. Apologies, this was my first post, we have so much going on and I feel so helpless, daughter disabled, disabled myself, Dad terminally ill, Mum Alzheimer's, in the last few years we've lost a few members of our family. We have never stopped fighting for our daughter for approximately 10 years in a broken system, we've got a petition together with over 125,000 signatures to stop reassessing people with lifelong disability and illness for PIP and have a group on facebook with over 2.5K people now, slowly but surely we are getting there, just wish we had a magic wand. Thank you if you read this far.