My Mum has been diagnosed with dementia, she is 84 years old and lives alone. My sister is her main carer and lives 10 minutes walk away in a village. I am full time carer for my partner with AD and live about one hour's drive away. Mum has on 2 occasions(that we know of) gone out in the evening to the local shop (which involves going across a lonely dark park!) to purchase something, mainly cigarettes. She has got lost coming home both times and the kind shop keeper has brought her home, the shop keeper now has my sister's mobile number. I think Mum has got to the stage where she needs more care that sister gives her, and I cannot dictate that she should do it, it's up to her. If it was me I would either live with Mum or have her move in with me, but I know my sister is against this as she values her own time and feels restricted and obligated as she sees Mum every day in the morning and afternoon to give her tea. Mum is against going to live in a home, she has tried the day centres and memory cafes, but refuses to go anymore. does anyone out there know of some sort of alarm that would alert sister that Mum has gone out of the front door, I am a bit confused as there seems to be an array of products out there, I wouldn't know where to start. It won't make my Mum totally safe but at least she won't go out wandering at night. Sometimes feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall with sister as I have suggested a part time carer and a cleaner,(Mum can afford it) and her response to having a door alarm was 'what if I'm out of the village?' We both have poa, but she does nothing about it, just says that she has already told Mum not to go out at night - sure, that's going to be really reasonable for a person with AD!!
Rambling a bit now but feel frustrated by all of this.
Rambling a bit now but feel frustrated by all of this.