Can someone help me please. I need advice on how to deal with my mum who is missing my dad terribly. They have been married for well over 60 years. Dad is in an assessment unit and mum is finding it very difficult being without him. She only wants him back home but until his condition is stable he has to stay where he is. The only trouble is that mum is really missing him although it was not easy when he was at home. How can I cheer mum up when she is so low that she has even told us "I don't want to live without him" Everytime she visits she comes home and breaks down but the next day has forgotten and wants to visit and we go through the same experience again. It hurts us all as we see dad slowly disappearing before our eyes. He looks like dad but that is all and mum not really coping with life with him away in the assessment unit.