My mother (ex head teacher and super fierce but well into Alzheimer’s) is adamantly saying she won’t let my sister and I organise visiting carers for her. We live some way away from her and both have lives which mean we can’t move in, though recently between us we have been there 24/7. When I try to discuss it - sometimes mentioning my own mental health which feels very precarious- I get the full guilt trip “oh well I suppose I’ll see you every couple of months then” when we have done SO much for so long. I find it incredibly upsetting. We have a nice woman from a recommended care agency visiting on Tuesday morning. I literally cannot bear to carry on like this, the stress is making me nearly suicidal. Does anyone have advice on getting past this point? My sister and I are both in agreement that we need professional help to deal with our very difficult mother. Thank you for reading!