We have suspected Mum has dementia for 2 years now and at last have managed through stealth methods got her going to the nurse (high blood pressure excuse) and the nurse persuaded her to make an appointment for the doctor which she attended with my Dad BUT made his life hell in the run up to the appointment. The doctor was lovely and made a referral to the memory clinic and last week the memory clinic phoned and left a message on their answerphone - well all hell was let lose and my Dad really suffered and now Mum is blaming him for saying too much to the doctor - shouting screaming, etc. - My Mum and Dad have NEVER argued to my knowledge (I am 46 !). Today the memory clinic phoned and left another message and Dad went through hell again today. My dilemma is what should I do ? She has an appointment booked for Thursday for routine blood pressure test with the nurse so should I phone and speak to the nurse so she will make the appointment BUT how will it be taken out on my Dad or should I leave it and see what happens ? but will they keep phoning and causing major upsets. I really want her to get help but she is really digging her heels in and it is breaking my heart hearing what is going on from my Dad. Any advice would be welcome, sorry to ramble !