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I'm not just responding to you but to all the kind people on the forum.Badgeman, do you have a safe refuge in your home somewhere? A bolt hole where you can keep a barrier between you and your mum, if you need to? And have a phone handy so you can call 999?
Wishing you a peaceful night's sleep and thinking of you. xxx
Thank you, I hope it works out for you, it's most kind you responded. At the moment it's the only words of comfort I can give.Badgeman I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope you and your cats will be ok, I totally sympathise as I am facing the same issue. Do you have any other family?
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Thank you, I'm not trying to be brief, I've only had a couple of hours and I medicated mum. I need to grad a couple of hours before carers et al arrive at 2pm. Fingers crossed, she stays medicated until this afternoon, as much as I hate saying that.You deserve a medal! People like you should be in the New Years honours list for dealing with this everyday without fuss and self pity!
Firstly, I wouldn't worry about her accusations as you spoke to GP and he could hear situation for himself on the ozone, which gives you a witness if need be. Secondly I don't think you need a witness as she will be the same when in hospital. Thirdly, I too would refuse to put myself back into the same position if the situation isn't resolved properly to the point that you have your life back for you just refuse to allow her home. Harsh it may seem but you have done enough.
Finally, please please go to the GP ASAP. Speak to him about everything, to get it off your chest and to put him in the picture. I think it would be an idea if you could to ask him for some medication to help you through the next few months. Often people can have a breakdown themselves after traumatic events, but cope at the time of the event. If you could get some medication to just take the edge off things you would cope better with legal issues, housing etc.
Regarding the housing situation if you are helped by the GP he could help with the housing situation too and may get the housing guys to understand your situation sympathetically. Your cats I wouldn't worry too much about as they may feel less stressed with your mother out of the situation. I have three cats and live in rented private accommodation and landlords are quite accommodating in respect of cats, unfortunately not so with dogs. So if you do need to move don't let that worry. If you need any legal help try Shelter as they know everything.
For now just be kind to yourself and take one day at a time. Please keep us posted. Hoping 2016 is such a better year for you.
I read your reply a couple of days ago.I've only just caught up with your post Badgeman,but I'd like to offer my support as I have had and still do similar situations with my mum-although she isn't mobile as such now-I've been through the same as you-her being aggressive towards me-when she is all sweetness and light and the stereotypical little frail old lady,and the confabulations have hurt more than the physical attacks-the accusations I get from 'she's trying to kill me" and she's killed me I'm dead... I'm used to being accused so nothing phases me now,it is a step closer to the end in her disease.. It used to hurt and I have learnt to let it go over my head.. The cpn says it is part of her vascular dementia and the confabulations are usual text book stuff..
It causes me concern,though when my mum is black and blue from her 'dementia dreams' and I get accused of beating her up and murdering her,that is what I hate and cannot tolerate..I've been told by the gp to ring the district nurse to come and give her a shot of a anti psychotic/sedative to calm her when she is like so agitated.. You have my understanding and empathy because I live with this 24/7 without much support too..