Mum is gone

Discussion in 'End of life care' started by angecmc, Aug 21, 2017.

  1. Moglie

    Moglie Registered User

    Apr 14, 2017
    39
    No more suffering for your mum, she is at peace now - thinking of you all xx
     
  2. chris53

    chris53 Registered User

    Nov 9, 2009
    2,930
    London
    Remember the good times and feel blessed that your mum finally found peace after such a long time,and may you and your family take time to heal.
    X
     
  3. Amethyst59

    Amethyst59 Registered User

    Jul 3, 2017
    5,738
    Female
    Kent
    Ah, I am sorry to hear of your loss. These dark days will pass...and one day the memory of your lovely mum, before she got ill, will bring a smile to your face. She will always be in your head and your heart. God bless our mums.
     
  4. Amy in the US

    Amy in the US Registered User

    Feb 28, 2015
    4,624
    USA
    Ange, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. Please accept my condolences. We will be thinking of you.
     
  5. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Thank you xx

    Ange
     
  6. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Thank you for your kind words xx

    Ange
     
  7. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Thank you, lovely words xx

    Ange
     
  8. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Thank you so much xx

    Ange
     
  9. CeliaW

    CeliaW Registered User

    Jan 29, 2009
    5,655
    Hampshire
    So sorry to read your post Ange - glad your Mum is at peace now and wishing you strength for the times ahead. Take care of yourself x
     
  10. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Thank you xx

    Ange
     
  11. Treacle Tart

    Treacle Tart Registered User

    Oct 24, 2014
    4
    Southwark
    My Mum passed on the 15th August 2017

    Dear Angel
    My wonderful Mum passed on the 15th August after five years of Dementia. On the 18th July she went into like a 'coma like sleep' and was admitted to hospital, treated for a urinary infection. As far as I'm concerned it was a failed discharge on the 19th as she was re-admitted on the 20th with in again 'coma like sleep'. Treated for infection again and full bowel. From then on she just seemed to deteriorate very rapidly, not being able to eat and drinking only what we could syringe. There was no conversation and she mainly slept but I didn't give up hoping my continually chatter she could hear. The Hospital discharge team and the Brokerage team wanted her to go into a home as they said 'hospital care is not respite'. Two failures due to Care Homes arguing over cost with Brokerage had me tearfully going in to tell Mums Consultant that 'she was not being moved anywhere, that she was staying put'. On the 7th July along with my Dad, 93 years young, we were told that Mum was now in the last stages of Dementia and life. She was taken to a single room, all her photo's us, Grandchildren and Great Grandchildren where put up on her facing wall. Mum was given 24hr Palliative care. I received a call on the morning of the 15th just as I was about to leave for the hospital. Her breathing had become shallow and did I want to come and sit with her. Mum was surrounded by family, a very dear friend of nearly 82 years (they were evacuated together during WW2) and even her youngest Great Grandson of nineteen months. Mum was given morphine, the last was about fifteen minutes before she passed. I cannot fault the ward Mum was on, the staff were absolutely wonderful as was the Registrar who took care of Mum. My upset was NHS protocol and Local Borough Care Homes. Mum had only been in respite once other than that she was at home with my Dad and I seeing to her needs and making sure she was happy. I miss her loads but I feel happy that she is now at peace, so does my dear Dad. My condolence to you and your family at such a sad time but think, she is so much more happier now xxxx
     
  12. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Hi, I am sorry you had problems with NHS protocol and the care homes, you all did well to be able to look after your Mum in her own home, not an easy job. I am so sorry for your loss too, your love as a family shines through your post. Take care, as you say our Mums are now at peace xx

    Ange
     
  13. angecmc

    angecmc Registered User

    Dec 25, 2012
    2,109
    hertfordshire
    Thank you for your kind words, taking each day as it comes. I do see her smiling face now when I think of her, which is so much better than the tormented Mum I used to visit. Xx

    Ange
     

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