Had to post having just left my parents house in tears. Both have Dementia although Mum is far worse.
She is eating virtually nothing now for the past few days although the carer did manage to get her to eat something at lunchtime today.
She has started having accidents and when I have called in on my way home from work and last weekend I have had to soak her trousers etc before I can put in the wash.
I tried to have a gentle chat with her about how she was struggling and not coping and Dad was struggling now to look after her and she got very angry, started shouting she did not want to go in a care home. Went to find Dad and told him that I was a nasty piece of work and lots of other nasty comments and I was to leave her house and not come back ever. There was banging of plates on the table and crying.
I have to say I did loose it a bit and shouted back. She still has enough capacity to know that she does not want to go in a home or have anyone in her home (even though they have carers in 3 times a day at the moment).
Even if I find a home place for her how do I get her to go there. I cannot get her to leave the house. I have seen other posts about loved ones being sectioned. What has to happen for it to get to this stage.
I feel like I cannot carry on in the current situation. Dad cannot manage and it is affecting him and will end up finishing him off if something doesn't happen soon.
I have contacted Adult Social Services and they are make a referral for someone to contact me to carry out an Capacity Assessment and the GP has made a referral back to the memory clinic. Any help or advice on what I should do next would be greatly appreciated.
She is eating virtually nothing now for the past few days although the carer did manage to get her to eat something at lunchtime today.
She has started having accidents and when I have called in on my way home from work and last weekend I have had to soak her trousers etc before I can put in the wash.
I tried to have a gentle chat with her about how she was struggling and not coping and Dad was struggling now to look after her and she got very angry, started shouting she did not want to go in a care home. Went to find Dad and told him that I was a nasty piece of work and lots of other nasty comments and I was to leave her house and not come back ever. There was banging of plates on the table and crying.
I have to say I did loose it a bit and shouted back. She still has enough capacity to know that she does not want to go in a home or have anyone in her home (even though they have carers in 3 times a day at the moment).
Even if I find a home place for her how do I get her to go there. I cannot get her to leave the house. I have seen other posts about loved ones being sectioned. What has to happen for it to get to this stage.
I feel like I cannot carry on in the current situation. Dad cannot manage and it is affecting him and will end up finishing him off if something doesn't happen soon.
I have contacted Adult Social Services and they are make a referral for someone to contact me to carry out an Capacity Assessment and the GP has made a referral back to the memory clinic. Any help or advice on what I should do next would be greatly appreciated.