Mum was placed into a nursing home today as a step-down measure from the hospital, with the idea that she might stay there if she doesn't regain her independence. The hospital really too it's toll on her, and she has lost a lot of weight as a result of having food and drink left out of reach, and then kept bedridden for their convenience. At the request of two doctors at the hospital written to PALS, as the number of complaints have taken the matter to senior management there. She is much less mobile than a few weeks ago, when she was at home before an infection, and they've messed around with her medication, dropping her painkillers, and her appetite is not so good after being starved.
Anyway, when I went this evening after her transfer late afternoon it just seemed awful! It's a great place...for someone with much more advanced dementia than she has....and she was depressed and scared by it. She kept saying why am I here? They put a bib on her for dinner (!) and there were no patients she could talk to, only staff. I'm really, really upset, and would like her moved to a care home for step-down. I've e-mailed the social worker, but I'm not sure what can be done now that she's there. She likes to talk, but the other residents are to advanced to hold a simple conversation, and she sees them a sihn of what's coming. I'm SO unhappy for her.
Amy advice would be greatly appreciated, as I feel really awful about it
Anyway, when I went this evening after her transfer late afternoon it just seemed awful! It's a great place...for someone with much more advanced dementia than she has....and she was depressed and scared by it. She kept saying why am I here? They put a bib on her for dinner (!) and there were no patients she could talk to, only staff. I'm really, really upset, and would like her moved to a care home for step-down. I've e-mailed the social worker, but I'm not sure what can be done now that she's there. She likes to talk, but the other residents are to advanced to hold a simple conversation, and she sees them a sihn of what's coming. I'm SO unhappy for her.
Amy advice would be greatly appreciated, as I feel really awful about it