1. miha

    miha Registered User

    Aug 17, 2006
    1
    Bucks
    My dad has AD which i have come to terms with as i knew he was ill for some time,but my mum refusing to admit it and doesnt seem well herself. She is beginning to come to terms with it and isnt coping at all well but refuses to accept help and insists the doctors and nurses at the hospital dont know what theyre talking about. As a result I dont think dad getting the care he could.
    Im worried about her as dad is fine as long as hes told where hes going and who hes with but mums behaviour is totally erratic. One day she'll be in tears obviously devastated and finding it hard to cope, the next she pretends there is nothing wrong. She is showing signs of confusion herself which may be symptomatic of stress associated with caring but will not allow herself to be assessed. Im so worried that they could put themselves in danger by leaving cookers on etc and that they arent managing their financial affairs and could be taken advantage of. They want to move closer to me but dont seem capable of selling a property at the moment but i cant do anything as its in their names. Does anyone have any experience of dealing with someone who needs help but is incredibly stubborn and wont accept it ? I just dont know where to turn for help.
     
  2. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    #2 Margarita, Aug 17, 2006
    Last edited: Aug 17, 2006
    Would your mum let you get POA so you can help them sell there home to be near you ?

    I say I cannot blame your mother for going into denial who wants to face all those emotion it is a coping strategy for her, the day she is crying she is relishing tension that she is feeling over it.

    You cannot change the way your mum feels in going into denial until she ready

    It is going too hard for you to stand buy and see your mum like this because of your emotion for both your parent. I suppose you know this anyway.

    Forgot to say welcome there is lots of lovely people on this site that I am sure can be of more help xx
     
  3. Helena

    Helena Registered User

    May 24, 2006
    715
    Try and get them to sign an EPA ,,,,,,,,,,,not a POA

    you can download the forms from Guardianship office website

    You can use it along with your mum to sort out finances /pay bills etc then once you have registered it you can even sell the house for them
     
  4. Kathleen

    Kathleen Registered User

    Mar 12, 2005
    639
    West Sussex
    Hello Miha

    Is it possible for you to write to or phone the doctor who sees your Dad to tell them of your concerns about them both, maybe they could get a visit to see for themselves what the problems are. They are both clearly in need of some help.

    Have you any other close relatives that could help out at all? You sound very worried and stressed yourself.

    Kathleen
     

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