My mum was diagnosed a year ago and has become increasingly worse but she still will not accept anything is wrong with her which makes it very stressful when I try to help.
I need now to get her a carer but she will not allow me to .
My lovely,caring,kind mum has become someone that I’m beginning not to like which is awful.
It’s heartbreaking isn’t it, I’m afraid eventually with Aged mother I had to step back & several crisis happened that eventually triggered care & help becoming available.
I actually used to say to my husband I love my mum but I don’t actually like her- my husband felt the same but without the emotional baggage I carried with me!
Sadly the social care process has to be followed & it’s so stressful continually banging on doors.
For me the turning point was when I actually stopped pushing for help.. but I had all the facts & evidence accrued for when that happened.
I truly hope that you find help & solace inside this forum as I continually do.
you are not alone in how you feel
if it’s any consolation ( believe me it is a minuscule amount) as Aged Mother declines I now have the mother daughter relationship I craved at times....yes the awkward stubborn old ways are not a total thing of the past, but having gone through this with Dad I feel it’s a bit of a second child situation in some ways .
little bit more relaxed & a lot more exhausted!
Keep posting
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