Mum has been in a care home for six weeks, now. It has been a mixed experience in terms of how she has settled and how satisfied we have been with the care home. However by far the worst part is that the carers report that she is upset and needs reassurance in the mornings because she thinks she and my Dad have split up! She previously lived at home with him. Dad visits every other day and takes her out for a couple of hours and she sees my sister and I 2-3 times a week. We have tried to continue some of her normal activities, hair dressing appointment, and a night out with friends at the local golf club at the weekends. However on Saturday she thanked me for taking her to the toilet and said that she needs help because she is alone now and its good she has the girls( I think she means the carers) to help her. She was quite matter of fact about this. When I said that she was still with Dad and he visited most days she said. 'does he? I don't remember that but that's good'. She is obviously trying to make sense of the changes in her living circumstances. She has figured out this is not respite this time, as she told the carers I live here now I am not going home (and as far as I can gather no-one actually gave her that information). I find this completely heartbreaking and I am not sure how to respond or what to tell her. Sometimes she thinks I am a carer and seems unaware I am her daughter. Any thoughts?