Hi Just to post that mum (nearly 86) with Alzheimers has now gone into a care home, I am afraid I couldn't deal with it anymore. She lived next to us in an annex attached to our house, I used to start around 7.30 till I would tuck her up at 11pm, She couldn't get into bed properly and I couldn't lift her so I used to make the best I could and keep her warm and safe. I have felt quite destroyed by it all, I know there are a lot worse problems in the world than my elderly mother but it is all consuming! I am not sure I have done the right thing but the carers are getting her washed and dressed and she is walking around in the home, in the annex she just layed on the bed gazing into space! She said yesterday when I arrived it was the best day, I asked why she replied because you are here! I am finding it all sad but think its for the best, I have looked after her for the last few years but am now signing her over to others, although I keep a close eye, visiting almost every day on everybody involved in her care!