Mum has been on a gradual decline and refuses to go to doctor, dentist, hairdresser, you name it she will not go. Luckily a nurse did a home visit to gently assess Mum and she is now on some tablets but over the last few weeks everything has been "no" and she will not answer my Dad apart from "no" and some occasional arguments. Tonight she was desperate for the toilet but wouldn't go and was almost doubling over with pain as she needed to go so badly, Dad kept telling her to go but she wouldn't and eventuAlly he raised his voice and shouted at her to go and she hit him. She has never done this before and it has shocked us. Is this the next stage ? I'm thinking it could be an infection as she is holding in her wee but there is no way on this earth we could get her to the doctors. Wonder what your thoughts are ?